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August 20, 2020 at 10:45 pm #30304
Lynn Sumida M.S.W./R.S.W.
ParticipantI recently came across this book “Why We Do What We Do”, and I was interested to see what the author had to say, given my bias for Choice Theory. Well I was pleasantly surprised and here is brief description posted on the book:
“Why We Do What We Do” by Edward Deci
If you reward your children for doing their homework, they will usually respond by getting it done. But is this the most effective method of motivation? No, says psychologist Edward L. Deci, who challenges traditional thinking and shows that this method actually works against performance. The best way to motivate people—at school, at work, or at home—is to support their sense of autonomy. Explaining the reasons why a task is important and then allowing as much personal freedom as possible in carrying out the task will stimulate interest and commitment, and is a much more effective approach than the standard system of reward and punishment. We are all inherently interested in the world, argues Deci, so why not nurture that interest in each other? Instead of asking, “How can I motivate people?” we should be asking, “How can I create the conditions within which people will motivate themselves?”
August 20, 2020 at 11:15 pm #30310Tarek Dario BenMiled
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