Like many, during this pandemic, I am trying my hand at growing things in my office and on my balcony and showing some remarkable successes and have learned a few things along the way.
Before I begin regaling you with my tales of how my green-thumbery surpasses all others, I need to come clean about my past plant parenting. I was a terrible plant parent – neglectful, inconsistent in my treatment of my past plants (underwater, overwater, never fed, wrong lighting, etc…), and failed to acknowledge their attempts to signal their needs to me.
Seven years ago, I was gifted an Anthurium Digitatum on a first, and only date (a whole other story). This plant and I have been to the brink of death, and back over these seven years, and to my amazement, she thrives. I have moved houses with her, forgotten her in corners of unused rooms, given her too much water and not enough sunlight. And yet, she thrives today. She is a resilient plant.
You may have seen the meme on the internet stating that humans are the same as plants, only with complicated emotions. (find it) I mostly agree with it, except for the complicated emotions part (again, a whole other story), we also share a resiliency trait.
Merriam-Webster describes resiliency as the ability to return to ‘normal’ shape, or functioning after being deformed, or having faced adversity. My plant certainly did just that. What about us? What is our resiliency like? What happens when it is low? How do we, the “complicated emotional plants” get back to our respective “normal”.
The American Psychological Association discusses in their article, how resiliency is not a personality trait but a skill that requires an individual to spend some quality time building their resiliency. With the pandemic not showing signs of letting up any time soon, and the associate consequences (known and unknown) are coming at us fast and furious, there has been no better time to foster this skill.
Firstly, understand that humans do not share identical viewpoints, on anything.
Secondly, what are YOUR personal needs, boundaries, and environmental requirements?
Thirdly, build and foster your networks, as having authentic, meaningful connections are incredibly important for our personal mental well-being.
Lastly, remember, that like plants, we need to feed, water, and care for our physical and emotional beings in order to thrive.
Final note: As always, seek professional help if you are struggling. Do not suffer needlessly.